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eep. I should have added "dazed and confused" Ahh... Morocco... One day, I will be there. Just for the night market, the food, the culture.. I shouldn't have watched Travel and Leisure that day... ugh.

Hi Jobert! Did you really mean to mention Lotto Jackpot and Morocco twice? BTW, got an email for you. Oh dang! Haven't written it yet. I will, soon as I find the thing... well, it's usually between my ears but I don't know where it's at right now. Got a mind of its own. What to do, eh?

Jim Paredes conducts what he calls Tapping the Creative Universe Workshop. He now resides in Sydney but he goes home every once in a while to hold these seminars. I've been wanting to do so for the longest time but I have my constraints. You might want to look into it. The nos. to call are 426-5375 or 0916 855-4303. I think they give out a syllabus for the seminar. Jim's website is http://haringliwanag.pansitan.net/. He always makes announcements there for oncoming schedules so you might want to check it out too. Hope that helps. :)

thanks a lot! :) i've read somewhere that the first step to become a "true" writer was to be published. anybody here in coffeespark who knows how to go about it? where should I submit my work? and do you think I am good enough? baka namn puro lakas lang ako ng loob at sobrang tiwala sa sarili! nakakahiya!:-) I need suggestions guys... and criticisms on how to improve my writing. by the way, I'm thinking of going back to school. saan kaya ako pwede magenrol? im thinking about creative writing or script writing. ung hindi nako pupunta pa sa school like a regular student. parang home study lng..is that possible?

Yeah! that's welcome news! Momma Mey, you CAN WRITE! I guess, when all the kids are grown up, it's time to indulge in your passion.

I think somebody should be calling you already to offer you a spot in the dailies a la Dear Delilah... err... or whatever it is you have there... heh.

coledude21, I think you know exactly what the situation is, and I think you know how to unravel the confusion, and I think you know what your answers are. What you need to do now is to acknowledge them. No one can tell you what to do. What do you really want? Do you want to spare yourself the pain you know is coming? Then quit, right now. Don't wait. If you don't care about getting hurt, then by all means go on, keep partying. Just a word of caution... listen to your heart. Don't do something just because it seems like the cool thing to do.

Dang sounds like you were digging this guy for someone to hang out with have fun... its cool to have someone give you special attention and the Lord knows you deserve it too for who you are cause you are truely one of a kind. Don't sell yourself short and give in to a bennies relationship. Sounds like your already in like with him, and he's in for purely the sex part. He doesn't have time to hang out with you, do movies, go to the mall, hiking, hanging out with your friends. Unless its on his time in the hot tub. Hes not respecting you. Don't put yourself in the position of being alone with him, in his bedroom, on the couch, or in the hot tub. Girlfriend you have way more to do than wait on this one man to get a clue of what it is to be a friend. Listen guys will fake having fun to get even the most remote chance of having sex, or to any of the bases. Wise up and see him for what he is. and walk away. Talk with your Dad he can give you some tips on how cute guys operate and ways to walk away. Take care

yup, you're on the losing end since may feelings kana for him. tsk tsk. why put youself in that situation when u have the choice not to be involved....? maganda sana kung ikaw yung nanggagamit coz atleast that way you're calling the shots :P hehe. pero really forget the whole thing. it'll do u no good. just love yourself, my friend \m/

Where are you dreams and desires outside of the relationship. You are worth so much more. Go find your passion away from him, rekindle friendships and blossom. It has grown to be common place for him, the thrill is gone. And it sounds like the role you play, is more like a Mom. You deserve to be treated as a women, lover and friend. I know its hard, boy do I know it is, Better to leave than be left. Left wondering why after all I did for you... If he was so in to you and us he would be on you like a duck to water 24/7. You settled once don't do it again. YOU ARE WORTH SO MUCH MORE.

First, NOBODY is ugly! You don't have to conform to Hollywood's criteria for being beautiful. Instead of thinking of what they think about you, focus on yourself. Focus on what makes you feel good. Feel special, feel beautiful. Because people will not see you as special and beautiful if you don't feel it yourself. Everybody is unique, and everybody have their own beauty. I believe that there is somebody for everybody (except for those called to solitude). He/she will come at the right time.

Good thing he showed up, or else you have to throw him out. Hahaha. I'm glad it turned out great. When you're married that long, I guess you can always count on reconciliations (unless there's something fundamentally wrong with the relationship).

The 'Friends with benefits arrangement' is another term for 'He doesn't want any commitment'. This means, this guy wants all the privileges (like sex) without giving anything back. This selfish guy wants your time, company, love, etc without the obligation of giving back anything. It's a relationship with a back door - anytime he feels it, he goes out the back door. Anytime, he gets another girl, he's out. You'll be the loser in this situation coz in the meantime, you're deep into it, while one of his foot is out of the door.

i got stuck with the line "almost having sex". Iha, there's no such thing if u ask me. I may be way beyond ur years but i think , when u indulge in something intimate and "personal",that's sex because it comes under the category of foreplay. friends with benefits is such a losing situation for a girl if you ask me. like it or not you will still be harboring a hope that you will be loved by your friend. what if he won't love you? paano ka na? ganun na lang? kahit pa nagenjoy ka, talo ka pa rin..di ba? tigilan mo na yan.. wala yang patutunguhan. masasaktan ka lang!

i was just trying to show u guys that there are no perfect relationships or perfect partners. compromise is the key. and the willingness to accept each other's flaws as part and parcel of the person you chose to be with. don't be afraid of the imperfect world.. after all, there are no perfect lives, just perfect moments. go ahead, love, indulge in the feeling!! iisa lang ang buhay natin! :=)

the problem with these things is that sometimes people tend to forget the friends only part.. if youre in a commitment like that you'd better be the one calling the shots. IDEA for that is cut the benefits. :D

shows you're not the perfect couple...just almost... =)

hey, im using jobert's line too when i get confused on things...

what is it with these "friends with benefits" relationships? how come it's getting rampant and normal among young people? i feel so old fashioned (but prefer to remain that way) coledude21, you get to call the shots. you are responsible for yourself. you will get treated the way you want to be treated. and if you feel that something isn't right, then stop and take your time. chances are, because of the lack of commitment, there will be other "friends"....and that would be all the more unfair to you. clearly, you can't handle such a relationship and it's good you didn't hang out with him again. better if you don't ever. or at least dont let him touch you again.

coledude21, huge stories are appreciated here. I have to apologize, because, I'm not really sure if you're straight or gay because of your handle. Nevertheless, the "best friend with benefits" idea doesn't fly with me. I'm using Jobert's YM status these days. It says: Stay strong, think straight, do good. I think there's a lot of beef in that. Be strong enough to take some time off to get your head straight, it'll do you good. What is a relationship without a commitment? Now, I'm not a believer in premarital sex, if you are, make him at least work for it. If I was a bit (tiny bit) younger and you happen to be a girl-friend of mine I happened to be attracted to, and we were talking about this at a coffee shop I'd lend you my heart as a springboard so you could openly use me as a rebound! --- wait, wait that doesn't sound good. (Honestly, in my less wiser days, I would have thought about this with my ways of martyrdom and such.) In a nutshell: if he seriously wants you make him work for "it", in any case, cut off the relationship.

Tell her how you feel. I speak for some of the female population who would jump up and down just BEGGING for a guy to open up and let their feeling out. Instead up bottling up all the feelings you have for her, tell her! She may not necessarily rush right into things but she obviously has to feel something for you if she and you were close. Things change as we grow up...we realize things later than we should. Truth be told, most girls don't even know what they want till it's gone and out of reach. My only word of advice for you is to tell her! Otherwise she'll never realize what her option is and how easily you two could last for a lifetime. Give it time and a less negative outlook and things could work out in your favor. Good luck, hope things work out for you two :)

OMG!... and I thought I had the sweetest love story area covered! Your story is the sweetest! I didn't have a Church wedding too Mey and my husband and I have celebrated our 17th last May... and counting. :) But anyway, have I said your story is the sweetest yet? I have? Well, it is. Sure is. :)

you seem like a really cool parents

para lang hindi mukhang reklamo lang ako ng reklamo sasabihin ko kung saan ako hindi pagod. im not tired of Scarlet Johanson, Jaymee Ong, Megan Fox and Beer. :D

hahaha...well then, i just hope you're feeling a lot better...

I plead the right against self incrimination. >:D

part time friend? is that the reason for that negativity? come on, what is it really? =P